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Friday, April 12, 2019

K - Kids & Mental Health #AtoZ #MentalHealthAwareness

According to the surgeon general, approximately one out of every five children has a diagnosable mental illness. Children can develop the same mental health conditions as adults, but their symptoms may be different.

Children, however, are developing mentally and physically, and their behavior may be difficult to analyze. Actions such as anxiety, anger, and shyness can be a part of developmental growth or a temporary condition rather than an illness. When troubling behaviors occur over a period of time or in a way that disrupts daily life, they are considered symptoms of a disorder.

Studies have shown that these children, if left untreated by a mental health professional, will likely to grow up and repeat these same behaviors with their children.

Children need to have a good mental health status if they are going to live up to their full potential and truly live a life that is filled with positive experiences and the willingness to do what is best for themselves and the people around them. Children with mental health issues will have a difficult time acclimating to different situations.

Some children have to deal with a childhood that is filled with angst, resentment, hatred, distrust, and constant negativity. They have a difficult time coping with their emotions. Many children just naturally feel depressed or have anxiety issues. When these issues are not dealt with in the proper fashion, the children tend to have lower self-esteem and they struggle in the educational environment.



Initial diagnosis is based on reports of behavior from parents, caregivers, and teachers in order to understand how the child functions in different situations. The following disorders are common in childhood:

         Anxiety
         Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)
         Eating problems
         Bathroom issues
         Feelings of sadness, or moodiness
         Disruptive behaviour
         Learning disorders, such as dyslexia
         Involuntary movements , or tics
         Schizophrenia, or distorted thoughts and feelings


Some disorders begin in childhood and continue into adolescence and adulthood. Others go away or improve with age, and some begin later in life. Alarmingly, however, 70% of children and young people who experience a mental health problem have not had appropriate interventions at a sufficiently early age.


If they have a warm, open relationship with their parents/caregivers, children will usually feel able to tell them if they are troubled. One of the most important ways parents can help is to listen to them and take their feelings seriously. They may want a hug, they may want you to help them change something or they may want practical help. 


Some tips for parents:

  •          Be aware of your child’s media use - TV, movies, Internet, gaming devices and online games.
  •          Provide time for physical activity, play, and family activities.
  •          Be a role model by taking care of your own mental health: Talk about your feelings. Make time for things you enjoy.
  •          Associate no shame or fear with mental illness.



DISCLAIMER: All the information being provided her has been sourced from the internet and books and some also via personal experiences. It has no medical authentication per se so suggestions if followed must be done in consultation with a trained mental health professional.

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This post is a part of April Blogging from A To Z Challenge
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Friday, November 16, 2018

Poison



Pin drop silences
heavy words
both rocks
tied to my ankles
in a lake

the unborn children
I bled
a wet salinity
in the corner of the eye

liquid diet for the soul
toxic like the air
of a beloved soul space

O love
you my nectar
you my poison's taste

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Candy Shop



standing outside 
life's candy shop
I count my pennies

the shiny price tags
all beyond me
peace, love, success
in their shiny jars

like nasty kids
sticking out their tongues
they silently smirk and 
say L-O-S-E-R

I can't surely afford
what I want
and would never want
what my pennies can buy

so I turn around
and throw the pennies
above my head
making a wish

that some other kid
might pick them up
and have her dream
fulfilled !


Friday, June 23, 2017

War and Pieces

Image : Google Images


The victor's loot
and the vanquished's shame
the woman in every war
without a name

the destroyed homes
as the shadows of 
kids' tombstones increases

the collateral damages
the unsaid tale of moms
daughters and wives
in war and pieces !


Wednesday, October 21, 2015

NAVRATRI SNAPSHOTS 2015



  •  A 40 years old, mother of two teenagers is distributing ice-cream sticks on the road near her apartment complex to street children. Some of them pre-teen and teenage boys, soon she is being pulled and groped and loud whistles and leering and she runs back inside the gated residential complex. The misguided kids enjoy the free ice-cream, aunty goes back to her condo, runs a hot bath and all that remains of the incident are the wrappers piled on the footpath.
    When we let go of any incidents as minor incidents of street harassment, don’t we pave way for far more dire incidents?
    What makes our boys believe they are entitled to rowdy behaviour ?Is our "Charity" misguided?

  •  I am watching news, my little one who is unaware of the technical gross details of sexual violence and RAPE, knows the word and knows that it is a cruel and bad thing to do to anyone. She stops colouring and after overhearing bits and pieces of a debate over the rape of two minors, she asks, "Mumma why do people hate and hurt little girls , so much? " I have no convincing answers.


  • In a neighbourhood Kirtan, almost every other song or line has the word "laal" (red), traditionally the colour for married women ( Saubhagyavatis), those singing these lines loudest are widowed mothers, sisters and wives , sitting in a corner away from the deity, the inauspicious women.



  • Not far from the Indian capital two little children are charred to death because they were not fortunate enough to be born upper caste, we look away and feel we have done our bit for the future kids of this country by distributing a few plates of poori-halwa.


•P : Mumma we Indians are generally brown you said , because of our genes and race and ,and climate.
Me: Yes dear.
P: Then why are all the goddesses fair, other than Kaali?
Me: ahmm....
P: and why don't they make Kaali beautiful? If a woman becomes angry does she become ugly?
I have taken some time from her to answer these difficult questions.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

CHILDREN'S DAY SNAPSHOTS

31st December
my frozen hands
want to loose
their painful fingertips
long after the party is over
the dishes are done
I make a new year wish.

20th January
The shiny new flyover
is not a road
its curved underbelly
is home
cold, unsafe, no walls
the NGO people
tell us fairy tale


14th February
I sold 100 roses today
the money and mother
are gone
Are all policemen bad?


23rd March
I serve tea
to intelligent people
in the university
while they talk about revolution
someone called Bhagat Singh

17th April
My mom died
father is in prison for it
I am now a parent
to three of us.


27th May
The little girl
in the big house
where mom works
has something called vacation
I am sure it must be pretty

20th June
She says touch is love
Love cannot feel so bad
the chocolate she leaves behind
always tastes bitter
even when
I be a good boy

16th July
I polish the pretty school shoes
I iron the beautiful pinafore
I pack the tiffin
I walk the dog
I sometimes feel hungry.

15th August
I sold flags
at a traffic light
the tar burns
into my soles
what is In-de-pen-den-ce
who knows?

25th September
I can never forget
I can never tell
what he does to me
but I want to go to school....

19th October
The Diwali sweets
my fingers
my skin
tastes like gunpowder
my eyes can't bear the light
I make crackers.

14th November
CHILDREN'S DAY


 

Monday, November 4, 2013

Diwali once more

His eyes shine like that of a hungry kitten as the headlights of the car reflects in them. He is 6 or 7 eldest of 4 siblings and its a cold winter night in the North. Its Diwali today, his mother and youngest sister are shivering in high fever in their dimly lit hut in the slums. His father is missing with his drinking pals.  The other two are with him on the other side of the road rummaging the garbage through their freezing hands to find a coin that people may have thrown during the rituals or a big unused cracker that they could  sell. The headlights are too close but he has just spotted a ten rupee coin. He bends forward but is slightly late to bend back. His suffering is over.


The heavy embroidered saree is in place. the long artificial plait swings as she moves to the beat of the drum and sings aloud as if enjoying the attention from the neighbouring balconies and windows. The negotiations are louder than the songs, the juniors follow her lead in singing and negotiating. The servant serves them some juice in those separate glasses kept for the workers. The drummer stuffs the sweets and clothes into the bag. The lady of the house tells them to do their thing outside and not come in. The head eunuch blesses the new couple "May you have a son  soon !"


It is so easy and convenient to take two polarised views about Diwali
  1. We work hard all year why shouldn't we celebrate, spend money, burst crackers, exchange gifts?
  2. green Diwali, austere Diwali, socially aware Diwali

Ask the Margins
dear Power Center
your debates are useless
they change NOTHING.

Diwali once more.
 

Monday, November 14, 2011

CHILDREN'S DAY


Small hands
bereft of any
lines that
indicate destiny

small eyes
without any
dreams
of happiness
or family

A small world
languishing
in a small corner
where no day
is ever
children's day !

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